A Message for DAD . . a word from our Pastor . . .

DAD, you are "The Interpreter of Life's Deals" for your family. Just being sensitive to their awareness goes a long way. When my children were little, I tried to schedule my day so I would be able to rock my children to sleep for their daily naps. Not all Dads can do THIS, but you CAN do something. Maybe you are home in the evenings and can read a story and tuck them into bed. Maybe you could have prayer and some Bible reading with them at some point of the day. If you search for something, there ARE things that YOU can do with your children. Don't forget to take time to have fun with them. You don't always have to go somewhere, make home a fun place.

Try to only punish for disobedience to a direct command. We often communicate unclearly, so have your children repeat what they think you mean. If they shut down emotionally, the adversary will have HIS way. Being sensitive and involved in your children's day-to-day experiences will help tremendously.

Many times the mind blowing stresses we encounter inadvertently affect our kids. Don't be too much of a man to apologize.

Never let differences between you and mom allow your children to take sides.

Let God use your children to help you reach souls.

Don't be afraid to cut off relatives who don't respect you or your lifestyle.

Never put your friends before your children. Some guys are so busy trying to "fit in," their kids fall through the cracks.

I was 8 years old when my father got us out of a carnal church in LA, California where a good man had allowed nepotism to corrupt his church. Of over 100 relatives that were then in the UPC, only a handful now are living for God over 50 years later.

All three of our kids love God and souls, give Bible Studies and try to love backsliders. Only God, tears and a wife that loves God more than she loves me, could accomplish that. God IS merciful! If you are willing and prayerful, God will give you direction in guiding your family and home.

The problem with child rearing is you never know if you did well, until you see what kind of adult they become.